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How Systemic Racism Impacts Interracial Couples
History continues to repeat itself in our nation where black, brown, and people of color are continuously oppressed, silenced, abused and murdered. How racism impacts interracial couples can affect intimacy, communication and more. At Center for Intimate Relationships, we commit to the hard and often uncomfortable work required, ♥️ READ MORE
4 Steps to Help You Jumpstart a Sexless Marriage
How a Sexless Marriage Makes You Feel For anyone in a long term relationship, we all know that sex ebbs and flows. We have periods where it amps up. Other times, it’s like we’re in a sexual drought. As in, not a single, solitary, sexy thought enters your ♥️ READ MORE
Overcome Boredom in Your Relationship
Are you bored in your relationship? Does your relationship make you want to yawn? Does it feel like Relationship Groundhog Day? Same routine, same activities, same restaurants, etc. It's what happens to most couples when their days become Life Management 101. All about routines, schedules, structures. Don't get me ♥️ READ MORE
Non-traditional Gifts for Valentine’s Day
Valentine’s Day gets such a mixed bag of reactions. Some folks HATE Valentine’s Day while others love it. Others come up with creative ways to celebrate while others feel pressured and overwhelmed to make it a perfect experience. Unfortunately, most folks truly miss what matters most. While chocolates, flowers, ♥️ READ MORE
3 Simple Tips to Manage Conflict in Your Relationship
How do you handle conflict in your relationship? Argue? Shut down? Distance Yourself? Go to a therapist? What do you normally do? Wouldn’t it be great if you and your partner just got along all the time? Great fantasy! The reality? Conflict will show up even in the least expected moments. Rather ♥️ READ MORE
Little Love Rituals
Do you have any Love Rituals? The month of love, that's what February is all about, right? Why limit the special gestures to one day/month a year? Couples tend to rely on that occasional love gesture to spark interest, passion and pleasure within their relationship. This might be successful ♥️ READ MORE
How Childhood Trauma Affects Adult Relationships
How childhood trauma affects adult relationships Do you fear that your past shows up in your current relationship? Maybe statements like: “I don’t know how to trust, it’s not safe”, “I don’t know when to reach out, I don’t want to be a burden to anyone”, or perhaps “I ♥️ READ MORE
How to Receive a Compliment
Does your partner struggle to receive a compliment? Do you struggle with accepting them? Do you dismiss compliments? When you allow yourself to take a compliment in and integrate it into your being, you participate in intimacy. A personal share… A couple of years ago, I ♥️ READ MORE
How to Kiss Your Lover
Don't you just love kissing? Ahhh, that delicious, warm, soft moment when your lips touch...the KISS If all kisses were like that, but they aren't. Why? Sometimes it is technique, sometimes it is just that you aren't feeling it. If you are desiring a greater connection with your partner, ♥️ READ MORE
Should You Schedule Sex? Part One
Should you schedule Sex? Part One of Two.... We schedule just about everything these days but the idea of scheduling nookie seems to make some people cringe. Why? Well, people struggle with scheduling sex for a lot of reasons....and we want to put some into perspective. It isn't romantic. ♥️ READ MORE
The “P” Word: Is It Okay to Watch?
Is Porn Accepted in Your Relationship? Many couples have conflict about the role of pornography in their relationship. You may flat out refuse to allow it. You might sneak your viewing and keep it a secret. You may view porn as cheating. You might use it to learn about ♥️ READ MORE
Should You Schedule Sex? Part Two
Should you schedule Sex? Part Two.... In Part One I talked about the misconceptions associated with scheduling sex with your partner. READ Part One HERE. In this post, I want to share the important tips for having the conversation about scheduling sex and how you can make this activity ♥️ READ MORE
Dominance and Submission – Can You Submit?
Are you ready for a little Dominance and Submission? Whether inspired by Fifty Shades of Grey or boredom, you join many partners who express frustration with their vanilla sex life. You may not seek whips and chains (or perhaps you do, you kinky thing!) but you simply know you ♥️ READ MORE
Mmmmm…Kissing
Why you need to makeout with your partner... I'm obsessed with this video, First Kiss. Not surprisingly, it went viral when published on YouTube. I admit that I've watched it several times and have been swept into it's magic each and every time. I notice that when I watch ♥️ READ MORE
How Humor Strengthens Your Relationship
Is there Humor in your relationship? Do you laugh at yourself? Or, do you take yourself too seriously? Laughter can be THE best medicine. A good sense of humor can strengthen your relationship with yourself and others. If you’ve ever been to therapy, you know some sessions are hard. ♥️ READ MORE
Why You Need To Kiss More Often
How often do YOU kiss? I remember my "first love" back in high school. On a warm September night, he kissed me on the lips for the first time. I distinctly remember how magical it felt. I nearly melted to the floor. Sadly, he became the high school ♥️ READ MORE
How to Create a Relationship Breakthrough
Does your relationship need a breakthrough? Okay, let's face it... Relationships can be t o u g h! It's so easy to fall into the ho-hum and sometimes it's easy to drift off course and do something that puts our relationship in jeapordy. It doesn't even have to ♥️ READ MORE
[Podcast] Intimacy Breakthrough Expert, Carolynn Aristone on Busy to Balanced Podcast
How do you find the time in a busy life for sex and intimacy? In Episode 11 of the Busy to Balanced Podcast, I share some of the detractors of and solutions to intimacy issues in many relationships. We dive into topics such as: How to become confident in ♥️ READ MORE
Are You Willing to Do The Work?
Your sex life doesn’t sit in a vacuum. In a long-term relationship, good sex is dependent on many things. If there is any part of you that thinks sex should “just happen” - organically, naturally, fluidly, spontaneously, at will - well, you will be sadly disappointed. I wish it ♥️ READ MORE
The Secret Behind Your Sexless Marriage
Are you living in a sexless marriage? Perhaps you’re one of those couples that from the outside everything looks picture-perfect, but you carry a secret that no one knows about. You and your partner don’t touch each other, you don’t get intimate with each other, and you don’t have ♥️ READ MORE
How to Feel Beautiful and Confident
When you think of being attractive, what do you think of? Do you think of your body? Or, do you go within? If you're wondering how to feel beautiful and confident, stay with me. We often get caught up in the outward appearance of beauty. We’re bombarded with images through ♥️ READ MORE
