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How to Overcome Sexual Inhibition
Sexual inhibition and what to do about it... Have you ever wanted to learn more about something or get help in an area of your life, but the topic felt taboo? Perhaps even the title of this blog, How to Overcome Sexual Inhibition made you hesitate to open it. [...]
How Childhood Trauma Affects Adult Relationships
How childhood trauma affects adult relationships Do you fear that your past shows up in your current relationship? Maybe statements like: “I don’t know how to trust, it’s not safe”, “I don’t know when to reach out, I don’t want to be a burden to anyone”, or perhaps “I [...]
How to Receive a Compliment
Does your partner struggle to receive a compliment? Do you struggle with accepting them? Do you dismiss compliments? When you allow yourself to take a compliment in and integrate it into your being, you participate in intimacy. A personal share… A couple of years ago, I [...]
How to Kiss Your Lover
Don't you just love kissing? Ahhh, that delicious, warm, soft moment when your lips touch...the KISS If all kisses were like that, but they aren't. Why? Sometimes it is technique, sometimes it is just that you aren't feeling it. If you are desiring a greater connection with your partner, [...]
Should You Schedule Sex? Part One
Should you schedule Sex? Part One of Two.... We schedule just about everything these days but the idea of scheduling nookie seems to make some people cringe. Why? Well, people struggle with scheduling sex for a lot of reasons....and we want to put some into perspective. It isn't romantic. [...]
The “P” Word: Is It Okay to Watch?
Is Porn Accepted in Your Relationship? Many couples have conflict about the role of pornography in their relationship. You may flat out refuse to allow it. You might sneak your viewing and keep it a secret. You may view porn as cheating. You might use it to learn about [...]
Should You Schedule Sex? Part Two
Should you schedule Sex? Part Two.... In Part One I talked about the misconceptions associated with scheduling sex with your partner. READ Part One HERE. In this post, I want to share the important tips for having the conversation about scheduling sex and how you can make this activity [...]
Dominance and Submission – Can You Submit?
Are you ready for a little Dominance and Submission? Whether inspired by Fifty Shades of Grey or boredom, you join many partners who express frustration with their vanilla sex life. You may not seek whips and chains (or perhaps you do, you kinky thing!) but you simply know you [...]
Are You Sexually Repressed?
Where does sexual repression begin? Two days ago, my almost 5 year old son sat on my bed playing cars while I laid out my clothes for the day, including some new undergarments. He picked up my bra and said, "So mom, how do you like your new bras?" [...]
Skin Hunger – The Need for Skin to Skin Contact
We all need to be touched. We are born wired for human touch. If we go through a significant period of time without it, we begin to physically crave it. We literally become hungry for skin to skin contact. It has been reported that infants who lived in orphanages [...]
Mmmmm…Kissing
Why you need to makeout with your partner... I'm obsessed with this video, First Kiss. Not surprisingly, it went viral when published on YouTube. I admit that I've watched it several times and have been swept into it's magic each and every time. I notice that when I watch [...]
How Humor Strengthens Your Relationship
Is there Humor in your relationship? Do you laugh at yourself? Or, do you take yourself too seriously? Laughter can be THE best medicine. A good sense of humor can strengthen your relationship with yourself and others. If you’ve ever been to therapy, you know some sessions are hard. [...]
Why You Need To Kiss More Often
How often do YOU kiss? I remember my "first love" back in high school. On a warm September night, he kissed me on the lips for the first time. I distinctly remember how magical it felt. I nearly melted to the floor. Sadly, he became the high school [...]
How to Create a Relationship Breakthrough
Does your relationship need a breakthrough? Okay, let's face it... Relationships can be t o u g h! It's so easy to fall into the ho-hum and sometimes it's easy to drift off course and do something that puts our relationship in jeapordy. It doesn't even have to [...]
[Podcast] Intimacy Breakthrough Expert, Carolynn Aristone on Busy to Balanced Podcast
How do you find the time in a busy life for sex and intimacy? In Episode 11 of the Busy to Balanced Podcast, I share some of the detractors of and solutions to intimacy issues in many relationships. We dive into topics such as: How to become confident in [...]
3 Simple Tips to Manage Conflict Better
Wouldn’t it be great if you and your partner just got along all the time? Great fantasy! The reality? Conflict will show up even in the least expected moments. Rather than wishing conflict away, focus on doing conflict well. Successful couples are those who move through conflict maturely because conflict is inevitable. Conflict will [...]
Are You Willing to Do The Work?
Your sex life doesn’t sit in a vacuum. In a long-term relationship, good sex is dependent on many things. If there is any part of you that thinks sex should “just happen” - organically, naturally, fluidly, spontaneously, at will - well, you will be sadly disappointed. I wish it [...]
The Secret Behind Your Sexless Marriage
Are you living in a sexless marriage? Perhaps you’re one of those couples that from the outside everything looks picture-perfect, but you carry a secret that no one knows about. You and your partner don’t touch each other, you don’t get intimate with each other, and you don’t have [...]
How to Feel Beautiful and Confident
When you think of being attractive, what do you think of? Do you think of your body? Or, do you go within? If you're wondering how to feel beautiful and confident, stay with me. We often get caught up in the outward appearance of beauty. We’re bombarded with images through [...]
Healthy Conflict in Relationships
We’ve all experienced conflict in relationships. Something is said or done. Someone is disrespected. Feelings are hurt. Good intentions are forgotten, and good sense goes out the window. You find yourself doing things you know are hurtful and saying things you know you don’t mean. Sound familiar? Destructive conflict [...]
Recovering from an Affair
My partner had an affair. I’m devastated. I’m overwhelmed. I don’t know if I can move past the betrayal. I don’t think I can forgive the infidelity. But I’m still in love with my partner. What do I do? Recovering from an affair is some of the hardest work for [...]
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