Are You Willing to Do The Work?

Your sex life doesn’t sit in a vacuum.  In a long-term relationship, good sex is dependent on many things.  If there is any part of you that thinks sex should “just happen” - organically, naturally, fluidly, spontaneously, at will - well, you will be sadly disappointed. I wish it [...]

Are You Willing to Do The Work?2018-07-05T21:35:45+00:00

Do You Fear Losing Yourself or Losing the Other In Your Marriage?

As a scholar of intimacy, I continuously attempt to refine my own understanding of this abstract concept and how it shows up through the multiple layers of our relationships. I witness couples avoid it, dance around it, dip their toe into it, beg for it, misunderstand it, desire it, [...]

Do You Fear Losing Yourself or Losing the Other In Your Marriage?2019-02-20T01:57:26+00:00

Skin Hunger

We are born wired for human touch. If we go through a significant period of time without it, we begin to physically crave it. We literally become hungry for skin to skin contact. It has been reported that infants who lived in orphanages died from lack of touch. [...]

Skin Hunger2019-02-01T07:18:57+00:00