Is it okay for me to be asking my husband not to go out with this guy, and to maybe break away from such a close friendship?

Q: Is it okay for me to be asking my husband not to go out with this guy, and to maybe break away from such a close friendship?

This viewer submitted this question because their partner has a friend at work who repeatedly cheats on his wife and has inappropriate relationships with other women.

The writer shared that in the past she and her husband had problems because he too had inappropriate (not physical) relationships with women he worked with. They have since worked through that.

She feels triggered because she can’t understand why her husband would be close friends with someone who behaves that way and wants him to stop being friends with his friend.

My Feedback: This can be a difficult experience.

This is a triggering experience based upon your husband’s past behavior. You may be experiencing feelings and emotions that you had when your husband made his previous choices.

I encourage you to take good care of yourself so you don’t become retraumatized.

But, it is important for you to realize that where you are now with your husband is not where you were then.

Watch for my feedback and some options that may help.


This video isn’t a substitute for professional therapy and is for educational purposes only. Any feedback given in my videos is not therapy. I’m giving you a therapists perspective based upon what is presented.

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