In this video, I am sharing my thoughts on how to reconnect with your partner after they have had an affair.
My partner had an affair and I'm trying to figure out a way to reconnect sexually. How do we reconnect after the affair?
The fact that you are reaching out is a sign that you are still interested in intimacy and that is a good sign. Things are not as far gone as you might feel. There's still hope.
Reconnecting after such a painful experience can be difficult but not impossible. In the question this person submitted, it is slanted toward them taking more responsibility than the betraying partner and what is most important is that you have to remember that you are both responsible.
It does not lie on one person's shoulders. It is an interaction that occurs between at least two people.
So both people or if there's more people involved are responsible for the sexual engagement, for the quality of that engagement, for the frequency of that engagement, for how intimate it feels, or for however you want to create your sex life.
It's never dependent on the one person, so if you are the betrayed partner and you are feeling like you have to do all or most of the work, I want you to sort of do a self check about how much blame you're putting on yourself for the state of your relationship. Look at your relationship before the affair and after the affair.
If you're taking your too much responsibility and you need to figure out a way to shift the responsibility back onto your partner, there are some questions, key questions that your partner needs to be asking themselves and if they don't know what those questions are, maybe you can have them watch this video.
One question for the involved partner to be asking himself or herself is what was different about me when I engaged with the affair partner?
Watch the video and learn more about how to refocus your sex life and reconnect after an affair.
This video isn't a substitute for professional therapy and is for educational purposes only.
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