How to Rekindle Intimacy and Sex

Elysabeth Williamson, author and yoga teacher, writes,  “Touch is as vital to our survival as air, food and water”.  Touch allows us to communicate and connect, to listen and express, to give and receive. 

A lack of touch can have a strong impact on your well-being.  Many couples who dislike being in a sexless relationship often admit that they barely touch each other. At most, they exchange a daily peck on the cheek or a quick hug.

There are various reasons why touch can take the back seat in a relationship.  

In her book, The Art of Sex Coaching, Dr. Patti Britton lists some of the following reasons:

1) Couples have become too familiar – “He’s like my best friend”.

2) Couples have stopped all touch – With more focus on daily responsibilities, careers and children, couples lose their touch habits.

3) One partner fears intention behind the touch – For some couples, touch is misunderstood.  One partner sends out a touch that signals affection, the receiving partner interprets this touch as sexual pressure. 

4) Couples lack passionate touch – Couples prefer affectionate touch over steamy touch.

5) History of abuse – Touch aversion can be a symptom of previous physical/sexual abuse or rejection.