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4 Steps That Create Compassion in the Face of Conflict
Do you remember George and Karen*? Always fighting to win the battle between them? Their quest for victory left no room for compassionate dialogue. I am not anti-conflict. In fact, I see conflict as an important and healthy component in relationship when used...
Do You Fight To Win?
When couples come into my office, they are stuck and in conflict. Some are clearly fighting to win the battle. They painfully cycle through patterns of blame, resentment and righteousness. George and Karen* came to see me for “communication problems”. In session,...
Fear of Intimacy: Do You Fear Losing Yourself in Your Marriage
Do you have a fear Intimacy? As a scholar of intimacy, I continuously attempt to refine my own understanding of this abstract concept and how it shows up through the multiple layers of our relationships. I witness couples avoid it, dance around it, dip their toe into...
Date Night Guide for Busy, Tired Couples
Busy Couples Date Night Ideas This article was originally printed on page 14 in South Jersey Mom magazine's February 2015 issue! Let’s face it, parenting leaves little room for couple time. Date night requires time, energy and money, right? Not necessarily. With a...
5 Important Facts You Must Know About Erectile Dysfunction
Erectile Dysfunction No one welcomes erectile dysfunction, also known as ED. Up to 30 million men in the United States experience ED in their lifetime. ED is the inability to achieve or maintain an erection throughout the completion of sexual activity for a period of...
Sex After Baby: Your New Normal
Sex After Having A Baby Recently, I chatted with other moms in a Facebook group about a couple's sex life after having a baby. Some of the moms expressed distress with their own or their partner's lack of sex drive. Others were concerned, not so much about lack of sex...
Mindfulness, Stress and Meaning
Mindfulness, Stress, Meaning This week, I graduated from a Sex Therapy Certification program. I enrolled in the program back in September. I have grown by leaps and bounds in my clinical approach with clients. I have much to celebrate. But this growth required some...
Can You Be Ethical and Slutty?
Women struggle with deep internal conflicts around sexuality. Do you feel confused about how you are "supposed" to act sexually? Do you stop yourself from doing certain acts or saying certain things for fear of being labeled as slutty or loose? Are you uncomfortable...
What Makes Marriage Work
On March 16, 2014, my spouse and I will celebrate 20 years together. We frequently hear comments from our friends and family on how much they appreciate and admire our marriage. At least 15 years ago, a family member asked me what made my relationship work so well. ...
10 Tips for Your Everyday Love
Everyday Love Just like you might feel that you "should" celebrate Valentine's Day today, I feel like I "should" blog about Valentine's Day because I work with so many couples. So let me say from the beginning that this blog is not about Valentine's Day. It's about...
The 3 Keys to Create a Healthy Separation
I would love to say that therapy saves all relationships from separation. It does not. Some couples soar through the process reaching high levels of satisfaction, others settle for the status quo and still others decide to call it quits. If you have both decided that...
Why Your Relationship Disappoints You
John and Kim came into therapy due to financial differences. Partnered for many years, they kept separate bank accounts. John always thought they would join their bank accounts but Kim assumed they would always keep finances separate. Sara and Joe were married for...
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