Are you bored in your relationship?
Does your relationship make you want to yawn? Does it feel like Relationship Groundhog Day? Same routine, same activities, same restaurants, etc. It’s what happens to most couples when their days become Life Management 101. All about routines, schedules, structures.
Don’t get me wrong. There’s a sense of stability in it, right? At least, you know what to expect.
Like most long term couples, you settle in for the long haul. Your routine becomes second nature, providing reliability and comfort in its repetition. Where spontaneity might bring uncertainty, reliability brings a sense of safety. Unfortunately, it can also bring boredom and complacency.
It can even lower the bar for what’s possible in your love and in your life.
Over time, it can be hard to understand how you got to where you are or where your spark went. You may even start to think– What the hell happened to us? We used to be so fun together.
Anyone who has been in a long term relationship has felt “the slump”. I’m not saying routines are bad. (We all need a certain level of dependability in a partnership.) But I am challenging your mindset and the status quo for your relationship. Chances are that if your relationship feels stale, you and your partner have grown complacent.