History continues to repeat itself in our nation where black, brown, and people of color are continuously oppressed, silenced, abused and murdered. How racism impacts interracial couples can affect intimacy, communication and more.

At Center for Intimate Relationships, we commit to the hard and often uncomfortable work required, to help shift the paradigm of racism in our country.

We invite you to do the same.

If you follow our work, you know that we focus on helping couples create exceptional relationships. 

What you may not know is that healthy relationships – of all forms – start with self-examination, an accountability process if you will. 

So, whether you want to resolve something more personal, like a lack of intimacy or something larger like racism, the process starts with individual self-examination. 

I’m not going to sugar coat this. 

It’s not easy work.

The work of examining white privilege, implicit bias, microaggressions, systemic racism and systemic white supremacy is nothing anyone wants to own.

Sadly, many folks don’t even realize that through their denial and silence, they become complicit.

In the world of relationship counseling, this work is especially important for interracial couples where one partner identifies as white and the other as a person of color (POC). 

As an interracial couple, you might find that you rarely talk about race. It’s as if there’s an implied belief that somehow, by choosing each other, you’ve overcome your own internalized racism.

Unfortunately, because racism exists, your interracial relationship sets you up to manage a lifelong conflict you didn’t ask for.